Do more of what makes you happy...

For the last few years I have been wearing the brand "Johnny cupcakes". I'm normally seen wearing the logo of a cupcake and crossbones. But more importantly than the logo on the chest, a phrase is written on the tag inside. It states, "Do more of what makes you happy." It's an amazing yet profound saying. Without knowing, you have inspiration on you at all times. Whatever that thing is that makes you happy, do more of it. 

It's seems asinine that it is so simple. Just do more of whatever it is. No shit do more of what makes me happy. Why would you do something if it makes you unhappy? Yet we all do. There are plenty of things that make us unhappy. Life in general is a huge bum out. Work sucks. Coworkers and workplace drama suck. Bills suck, being an adult sucks. It’s not all pub crawls and parties. It’s not numerous group selfies filled with half assed fake smiles. It’s not all nights ending up in a diner with memories of a life time.

The best way that I can describe trying to make it in your 20’s and as an adult, is that it is like weed whacking your yard. Everything is going smooth, until you hit that one hidden patch of dog shit, when then causes shit to go everywhere. All over the place, just shit everywhere. There is not a large quantity of shit. It is a lot of little pieces of shit that are now all over the place. That you spread. Your intent of getting the job done, ultimately just spread shit all over the place. That’s how life is in your 20’s and as an adult.

However, if you find that thing that makes you happy, it becomes a little less shitty. If it's listening to music, crank it up. If it's running, take an extra lap. If it's eat a piece of cake, have a slice! Maybe it's helping out your fellow man, or donating things you don't need to those that do? Maybe you find a new book and go on an adventure without leaving your chair? Maybe it's picking up the phone, or writing (yes, writing) an old friend a letter just to say how they impacted your life. (You would be amazed at the impact that has on a person)

Whatever that thing may be, just ensure that you will never let ANYONE tell you that it is wrong. This is your life and you need to figure this out on your own. You can kindly smile and nod at those offering advice. You can give a nice wide-eyed fake episode of shock that lets them think you feel sympathy for what they had to endure (despite it being bullshit). But you never ever let them tell you that what makes you happy is wrong! (Unless it is an illegal/criminal/or morally wrong thing.)

Now I know you are thinking, “But what do you do when you're unsure if it will make you happy?” “What if you know, without a doubt, you are very unhappy?” And that the “things that used to make you happy, no longer make you happy?” Maybe it was the job you made into your life, and it no longer makes you happy. Now what do you do? How do I know at 27 years old, what will make me happy? I want to see the world, climb a mountain, run a race, prove everyone wrong, lose 100 pounds, get on stage at open mic night, and leave an impact on the future... So many things I would like to do but how do I know it is something that will make me happy? 

You leap. 

You say "F-it" and you "F-Ing" leap!

You put all of your fears aside and you take the plunge. Life is a scary as shit place, with chances around every turn to screw it up forever (Rufus from Bill and Ted taught me that one). We as humans get caught up in the "what if's", and it is one of the greatest reasons we never go after our dreams. What if I fail? What if I screw this all up? What if I let everyone down? What if? What if? What if!

It is in this defining moment where you need to change "what if" into "so what?" So what if you screw it up, it was fun doing it. So what if you fail, you can said you accomplished one of your fears! I myself have had more than a shit time trying to find that thing that makes me happy. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and friends. But for the last few wakes I feel completely alone while in a group of people. Hard to believe with my outgoing personality. 

(Fun fact, it's my way of coping with my social anxiety!)

But I've found that we can't be awkward and out of place forever. We have to find that new thing to makes you happy and run with it. 

Life is a real bastard that way. Later this week I am embarking on a new a job. But more importantly, I am making the change. It is the scariest thing in life, Changes. I am taking my leap. Finding and acting on that thing that makes me happy and doing more of it. If you never get out of your comfort zone, you will never know what else is out there. No more excuses, if it makes me happy, I'm going to do more of it. If it doesn't make me happy, I'm going to do less of it. So simple, yet so difficult. 

So here's to doing more of what makes us happy!